Written by Jamie Cox
“…Whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away” James 4:14.
“Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath” Ephesians 4:26.
The words came swiftly and violently. They spewed forth in anger. Sometimes they were loud and the heat could be felt throughout the house. Other times they were delivered softly, but just as cutting and harmful. Doors slammed, tears flowed, and pain radiated throughout the individuals.
A silence filled with sadness came in the hours that followed. Many times the hours turned into days. Then came an awkward word spoken. It was that moment when “I am sorry” should have been spoken, but pride got in the way, and the moment was gone. It was that moment when “I did not mean to hurt you” should have been said, but selfishness got in the way, and the moment was gone. It was that moment when “forgive me” should have been spoken, but immaturity reared its ugly head, and the moment was gone. It was arrogance that kept “let’s talk about this” from being said, and the moment was gone.
The pride grew and demanded belief that the other person was at fault, and the moment was gone. The selfishness increased and lashed out in blame, and the moment was gone. The immaturity and arrogance overflowed and were allowed to fester, and the moment was gone.
APPRECIATING AND APPLYING SCRIPTURE
“Do not let the sun go down on your wrath” tells us not to hold on to the anger and allow it a foothold in our hearts. Don’t let the anger to take root and grow.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 states “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.” But just as there is a end to both time and opportunity. There is a time to put away the past hurts, the anger, the pain, the selfishness, the immaturity, the arrogance, and the pride. There is a time to let the slate be clean and to try again. There is a time to forget the score and a time to start afresh.
For each moment we delay until the “perfect” moment to forgive, to say I am sorry, and to put the past behind us makes saying those words and taking those steps more difficult. As doing right becomes harder, the pain causes our hearts to harden at rapid speed. Now is always the right time to do right. Immediately is the best time to show love and forgiveness. Delay holds no blessing. If we delay long enough, both time and opportunity will be gone.